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OK. I have a 4 month old daughter and her Grandma likes to hold her all the time. That's a good and bad thing. because now she is spoiled. I don't care whoever said you cant spoil an infant but their dumb! because every time I try to take a shower, go to the bathroom, eat anything she cannot be put down. I love my mom to death but for some reason she has got it stuck in her head that she is her baby and not mine. I understand it but at the same time it makes me angry. Every time she cries she picks her up, She always says in a rude tone What's wrong with her insinuating that I have done something wrong. She tries to tell me where I can take her and where I cant. When people hold her or change her she hovers over them and makes them feel incompetent I mean she even does it to me and my fiance. It's driving me crazy. yes this is my first child but I am also 22 years old and have been around children all my life. I know what Im doing. I know she is just being protective but there is a line and she is deffinately crossing it. I can't talk to her about it because I dont want to hurt her feelings but it's getting rediculous. what should I do?

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So... I guess now you understand why your mother will ALWAYS see you as a baby. I could never see it myself until I had a child.

You see, those first 2-3 years are extremely important in a young parent`s life. For you, it was 10% of your life, and you don`t even remember much of it. But for them, it has been the experience of a lifetime. To have someone depend on you to that extent, to have someone devour your every move, to have the responsiblility to teach that child everything, even what part of their body is their nose, that is a very important part a new mother`s (and/or father`s) life.

It`s not particularly that she doesn`t trust you. You just have to be more clear and open about those things. "Mom, I`m sorry, but I`m all grown up now, I can take care of my baby". "It`s not going to be easy, I`m going to need your help. But I`m in charge".

I have 1 Mom to help me, 1 mother-in-law, 2 books, God knows how many magazines and 3 doctors, but the final decision is MINE. Only me and my husband can compile all that information and make it work in our favour. You have to step up! Gently, so you don`t hurt her, but still get to grow your own kid.

Best of luck!